This advice is written with love for people facing a nightmare. This is not a condemnation of the doctors and nurses and aides who are doing their best in an impossible situation — this entire situation is a condemnation of policymakers who know exactly how to stop the spread and are not.
If you came here for this advice, it means you’re likely in the midst of a horrific experience, and I am so, so sorry. I’ve been there, and I’m rooting for you. A member of my immediate family contracted covid through community spread early this spring while hospitalized. There were a number of times where the hospital was overrun, they were intubated, and we were told to say goodbye.* This is what I wish I had known then.