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At the senior level of most large institutions, there is a compact. It is never negotiated nor acknowledged as such; it is simply the air that the senior group breathes.
The compact is this: I will not challenge your judgment in a way that costs you, and you will not challenge mine. I will not raise the uncomfortable question about your initiative at the committee meeting, and you will not raise the uncomfortable question about mine. I will perform my confidence in your leadership, and you will perform your confidence in mine. We will, together, maintain the version of reality in which everyone at this table deserves to be here and everything that has been decided was the right decision.
This compact develops through a selection process; that is, the people who made it to the senior level are the ones who learned, on the way up, that challenging your peers and superiors in ways that cost them something is not how advancement works. The ones who challenged too directly found the path upward closed to them. The ones who learned to disagree quietly and manage their challenges through the right relationships in the right settings while still getting things done? Those are the ones who arrived.